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politics

#undergroundrailroad2019

Women make up 15% of Alabama’s state legislature. In Vermont, the number is 39% — which is still too low, but is also the second highest in the nation.

Alabama’s heavily-male dominated legislature just passed the most draconian anti-abortion law in the country. If it gets upheld by the U.S. Supreme Court, it will usher in an even larger wave of anti-abortion laws, voted on by men and victimizing women.

Vermont’s more representative state legislature, meanwhile, recently approved the following amendment to the state’s most fundamental legal document, to serve as a law above all laws:

That an individual’s right to personal reproductive autonomy is central to the liberty and dignity to determine one’s own life course and shall not be denied or infringed unless justified by a compelling State interest achieved by the least restrictive means.

Every woman needs to know:
You will always have a safe haven in Vermont.
You just have to get here.

PS: My town’s state representative voted against the amendment. More of my community members need to know that.

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politics

Learning My Lesson

A person I trust and love wrote me a letter about a month ago. I read it, responded (I hope) as graciously as I felt, and haven’t read it since. But it stuck with me, and it’s part of the reason I haven’t been blogging as often.

The way I remember what this friend told me (which may be different from what they wrote), I am very close to getting it but still falling short. The person told me this with so much kindness that I could take it as nothing but valuable constructive-criticism, not only of my way of thinking, but of my way of being.

This particular person had the misfortune to be my first official student, and they worked hard to hear the lessons I offered. Through their diligence, they earned a tremendous amount of respect from me, a respect they continue to reinforce in every interaction we have, lo these many years on.

How could the generously offered constructive-criticism of someone I respect not work its change on me?

The “it” I’m so close to getting has to do with the variety of progressive movements circulating around the lived questions of race, gender, sexuality, and identity, and how they each — individually and intersectionally — relate to power.

The main thrust, as I understand it, is that because of thousands of years of history that have led to a dying earth sick with the diseases of violence, greed, and corruption, an earth where every victim cries out with “Me too!” just to remind others that they matter, it is officially times up on the crime of male domination, with particular penalties to straight white cis males for their historic role in an unfair share of mass murders and genocides.

I am okay with this.

But it leaves me with the question: what should I do?

Maybe the answer, truly, is to do nothing. Anything I might do to advance the cause would, by dint of my doing it, hurt the cause. No one, including this straight white cis man, wants a straight white cis man to increase his power by connecting the identity of straight white cis men to this stage of human progress.

Further, by removing myself from the field, I allow someone who once upon a time is and was marginalized to approach from the shadows and sing out their truth, and in their song, enhance and entrance our species’ understanding of itself.

But the problem is: I just love to write.

Yes, I haven’t blogged much during the past few weeks, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t been writing. I’m working on a couple of pieces that will probably never see the light of day, and maybe…just maybe…that’s a good thing.

I have faith that the pieces I’m writing are good (that is, if you think my blog is any good), but I honestly don’t believe the world has any use for them.

Last week, Sen. Lindsay Graham said calmly, “I know I’m a single white male from South Carolina, and I’m told I should shut up, but I will not shut up, if that’s ok.

It’s not okay, Sen. Graham. On behalf of white males, please shut up. We had our say, and everyone can feel where that’s got us: a world that is drowning in debt, depression, and easily preventable death. Us white males should not be in charge anymore. So please, shut up.

The best thing to do right now for males in general and straight white cis males in particular is for us to ease the burden. I imagine myself as a nurse in a war, and I shiver at the physicality of it, the blood, sweat, and tears of it. I imagine myself as a homemaker, and I balk at the cost of it. I imagine myself as a servant, and I stubbornly and pridefully cry, not willing or wanting to think of anyone else as master.

But if not on the battlefield, in the home, or in the fields, how else to ease the burden? It must be in a way that stays completely behind the scenes, where my efforts sustain the progress of others rather than advance my own.

My friend suggested opening Fluid Imagination to other writers, to use whatever skill sets I have to establish the website as a viable amplifier of nontraditional voices whose stories, philosophies, and opinions might contribute something of significance to the chorus of today.

The only problem is that turning Fluid Imagination into a viable amplifier would take a lot of work, and to put it mildly, I’m not looking for more work.

(Maybe someday; definitely not now.)

Leaving me with this: a blog that doesn’t get updated as often as a blog ought to be updated because you don’t need to hear what another straight white cis male thinks about Judge Kavanaugh. Or what he thinks about the Patriots. Or Game of Thrones. Or the end of the climate as we’ve almost always known it. There are other, better voices than mine speaking truths about these things with more beauty and power than I know how to identify. You don’t need to waste time or energy wrestling with my pot-infused, white-male confused assertions about the truth of this or that.

Which leaves me with this: a blog that’s not about a lot of things being updated less often than any blog ought to be.

And yet, still I write. Still I write.

And some days, like today, I publish, because I don’t know what else to do.

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education life politics

What Makes a Man?

Desire. Humility. Knowledge.

Perspective. Integrity. Truth.

The story of this moment.

Watching *Breaking Bad* and judging Walter White. Watching *Game of Thrones* and judging Jon Snow, Rob Stark, Tyrion Lannister, and all the others. Talking with my wife and judging myself. The question repeating in my head: “What makes a man?”

The connective tissue is my desire to connect them in this moment, the moment when I sit down to write, with the mantra repeating in my head — “What makes a man?,” “What makes a man?,” “What makes a man?” This is coupled with a sub-intellectual urge to find the right music for the mood: a pushed finger and scrolling eyes searching for the right song in a list of always-already right songs — “What makes a man?,” “What makes a man?,” “What makes a man?” — and then I find the words, lined up perfectly in a column of song titles: “Desire. Humility. Knowledge. Perspective. Integrity. Truth.” — the track list of Kamasi Washington’s 2017 EP, *Harmony of Difference.*

That’ll do, pig, that’ll do.

~~

What makes a man?

The answer is performative. Each person is and ought to be free to perform their understanding what makes a man, and each person is and ought to be free to judge the performance of others relative to their already-held ideal of what makes a man.

A man is, then, what a man does and what others think of him for it.

A man is shaped by internal and external pressures. Both are capable of bending or twisting or sometimes even breaking his integrity. This makes a man no different from any other person. Individuals of all stripes are capable of great miracles, great joys, and great horrors, inspired by strange combinations of internal and external pressures that shape their performance of the truth, a performance whose quality can be and ought to be judged in the light of all that is known.

Some stories define a man by the pressures he refuses to relent to and by the conflicts he generates in his refusal to stand down, but in that too, a man is no different from any other person, and no more likely to stand up in the first place. We — all of us — are and ought to be defined (at least in part) by the positions we’re willing to defend and by the passions we ultimately use to defend them.

And so I ask once again, “What makes a man?”

~~

I teach and mentor individuals who identify as trans, as well as to individuals who openly question their gender. I also teach and mentor cis individuals. Many of them are highly invested in the question, “How does one become a man?”

The best answer I can give them is to watch the performance of other men and live out the traits they admire.

The ones I admire make up a harmony of difference.

### Desire
A man desires. Not content with the way things are, he sets his sights on something beyond himself, something different from everything he’s known, something to attract his interest. When he finds it out beyond the horizon of himself, he feels compelled to pursue it.

### Humility
A man stops short. He knows his limits. A man understands that desire and pursuit do not always lead to success, and he accepts man’s natural inability to “have it all.” With humility, he recognizes the appropriate time to give up the hunt, and he understands how to be gracious while doing so.

### Knowledge
A man knows when he has come to the edge of his understanding, and he experiences learning opportunities as they occur. He responds to differences in opinion and differences in beliefs with a curious heart, and when engaging in a debate, he seeks insight, not victory. A man seeks knowledge for one thing and one thing only.

### Perspective
A man stands atop an ivory tower of discoveries and recollections. Each floor added to that tower increases his odds of finding something new on the horizon, something interesting. It also gives a man a broader view on all that is known — the realm of experiences and stories between his tower and the horizon. With both a wider and more detailed perspective, a man can judge the performances of others against a diverse range of possibilities, bringing him closer to the truth of what is and what ought to be.

### Integrity
A man tests the integrity of others, and he responds with integrity to any test put before him. He desires wholeness in others, but allows himself to be fascinated by the fractures. He understands that interesting places twist and bend, and he finds joy in those places, the way one finds joy in the twists and bends of a waterslide.

### Truth
A man enjoys the truth; hard or not, he enjoys it, and he treats it as a sacred thing. Having once experienced it by happy accident, he desires it again and again. But a man stops short, and with humility, he knows when and how to give up the hunt.

~~

What makes a man? His ability to harmonize in a world of difference.

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education

Hot for Teaching

I am coming up on a new quarter at my high school gig and a new semester at my college gig. I recently received my finished schedules for both of them, which means I have roughly a week and a half to prepare for all of them.

Despite my desire this summer to reinvent my college-level creative writing class, once the school year got going, I found myself too busy to act on it, so the class I’ll be starting next week will probably look much the same as the one before. I may get inspired between now and then to implement some changes to my weekly lectures, but the general syllabus of the class will remain the same.

As for my high-school teaching duties, I have another section of *Dungeons & Dragons* this quarter, which though it takes a lot of prep, doesn’t require as much as it used to thanks to the number of times I’ve taught it now. I also have Creative Writing, which will run like a simpler version of my college course (this one will be one-on-one, just me and a fifteen-year-old student, so it won’t run — and can’t run — exactly the same as a college course designed for two dozen 20-year-old students).

I have a bunch of other classes that will require some significant prep time though. I’ve taught on similar topics in the past, but these classes really need to be designed from the bottom up if I’m to address the unique needs of this year’s crop of students.

The first new class is called *Talking Politics, Religion, and Sex: The Art of Difficult Conversations*. This class will meet three times a week and include five upper-level students (the youngest is fifteen; the oldest is nineteen). I’ve asked one of the older students to act as our facilitator so that she can develop and demonstrate her speaking and listening skills as per her graduation requirements. The other students and I will act as the interlocutors, sharing our understandings and opinions on various difficult topics of the day. The students will participate in the selection of the daily topics, but I will provide each week’s general theme (politics, religion, or sex, for example).

I don’t want the class to just be a bullshit session, however, so each week will also include direct instruction in the various strategies, styles, and norms that come into play when we engage in difficult conversations. This isn’t something I can pull off the top of my head. I will need to do some research if I’m to understand exactly what I need to teach and then some creative time if I’m piece it back together in a form my students will recognize. Finally, I’ll need to do some systematic thinking to understand how I can weave the direct instruction into the flow of an overwhelmingly dicussion-based class.

The second new class is *Women’s Studies, with a dose of Marginalized Communities*. I’ve taught a version of this before during a series of seminars on the historic waves of Feminism, but that was to a classroom full of eager philosophy students. This version needs to meets the unique needs of a single teenage boy.

I have one intention with this class: to get this teenage boy to not become a sexual assailant. As a teenage boy growing up amidst rural poverty and ignorance, he is, unfortunately, at risk. I’m creating this class solely for him, and I’m creating it as the father of a young girl, the mentor to dozens of other young girls, and the professor of over a hundred young women. I don’t do this to *protect* them; I do this to make their lives easier and to ensure their sexual experiences are more free from tragedy than those of their mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, and so on back through eternity.

We see a lot of memes about the shotgun-toting father. I’d like to see one about the story-telling teacher, the one who can engender enough empathy in his male students that they begin to value their female counterparts not just for their bodies, but for their minds and their spirits, a teacher who turns his young male charges into boys and men who can see in girls and women the same struggles and desires that they see in themselves, and realize, when they look into their faces, that they’re looking at human beings, creatures with a right to just as much liberty as them, and not one iota less. Where’s that meme, huh?

So that’s the self-righteousness that I’m bringing into the class, which is obviously not a good thing. Self-righteousness does not a good teacher make. I need to tone it down and simply meet the kid where he is at…and then gently lead him into the future with the rest of us, a future where women are truly equal, not only in their opportunities, but in their estimations.

The “dose of marginalized communities” is included in the title as a tangential topic because it’s not my motivating force, but I do understand that the lack of empathy that opens him up to being a potential sexual assailant lies at the root of not only misogyny, but also of racism and nationalism, two more ideologies that lie like a curse across this country’s future. This understanding will be like a bass line beneath all of our discussions, but the class will focus more directly on his relationship to women; that is the fault line that will shake him to his core and loosen his ideologies up for a shift on everything else. I’m still not sure how to do that though.

Another relatively big class I need to teach is *Civics*. This particular class includes five students ranging in age from fourteen to nineteen, and all of them were assigned to it (i.e., this is not a class they’ve asked for). I’ve taught some version of civics in a variety of contexts, including a deep dive into the Supreme Court and others into some of the agencies subsumed under the Executive branch.

But this class is a little bit different. First, I’ve yet to teach this particular combination of students, and I’m unclear as to how well they can work together, let alone my reservations as to how each of them will work (or can work) on their own. Leaving that aside, I’m also unclear as to my overall objective with the class. When the class is all said and done, what do I want them to understand and what do I want them to be able to do?

Two of my five students are eligible to vote. The other three are not far behind. When it comes time, I want all of them to be able to do that — to vote — and to do it in as informed a manner as possible. I don’t want to shape the way they think about political topics (they can vote for whatever and for whomever they like), but I do want to shape the way they think about their role in our government.

I want them to see the entire tree of our democracy, understand its main branches (including the military), and feel their own standpoint as being deep down among the roots. I want them to understand how their actions and their decisions help feed the entire tree. I want them to have a sense of civics that is less “how a bill becomes a law” than it is “how a person becomes a country.” I think that could be kind of fun.

I’m also teaching a small class to two students about *The Art of the Sentence*. I haven’t taught this one before, but I’d like to make it a staple of my quarterly offerings.

The majority of my high school students hate to write, and most of them have been socially promoted throughout their education, leading to a situation where not only do they hate to write, but they flat out don’t know how to.

I haven’t ever addressed this question head on. I’ve focused more on the shallowness of their thinking than on their inability to write down their thoughts (neglecting, in the process, a major contributor to the cause of their shallowness). With so many of them hating to write, I concentrate a lot on their verbal skills (hence, *Dungeons & Dragons*), trying to get them to ask questions when they don’t understand something and to reiterate a speaker’s points when they think they do. When I’ve forced them to write, I’ve concentrated on the way they introduce, support, and transition through their ideas, focusing my instruction on the highest levels of their argument.

I’m hoping this new class will correct my error. By reducing their focus to the sentence (rather than to, say, the paragraph or the argument), I hope to change the entire game that they’ve been taught to play, and in the process, try to engender a new joy for writing.

I don’t yet know how to do that exactly. I don’t know what example sentences to provide; how much grammatical jargon to use, and whether to teach it and insist on its use directly; how much time to spend on punctuation; when to introduce each piece of new information; how to assess for their understanding and practice; etc. But regardless of how I do it, I know I have to do it, and for that, I’m excited.

The final class on my upcoming schedule is called *Technology*. It’s a one-on-one class with a graduating student who simply needs a quarter-credit in Technology to graduate. Essentially, I can make the class about anything, as long as it includes technology. I have a couple of ideas: podcasting; blogging; a conceptual breakdown of the Internet, supported by technical materials…but I haven’t spoken with the student about it yet, so I don’t want to make any assumptions. The podcasting thing could be fun, but we’ll see — it’s really up to him.

That may seem like a lot to prep before January 23rd, and the truth of the matter is that it is, but each of the topics are of real interest to me, so the prep is something I’ll enjoy. I’m sometimes too busy or exhausted for it, but I know that every moment I can give to it will pay me back in spades.

I guess one word for what I do is called *work*, but working is easy when you truly love what you do.

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politics

Catching Up

I haven’t posted for over a month. I’ve posted articles in other places, but nothing here on Fluid Imagination. Part of the reason had to do with my job. During the last month, I wrote, built, and launched a new website for my school, and before that, I spent most of my free time developing the second-quarter schedule for all of our staff and students. You see, along with teaching, I’m also an administrator and marketing person, so things can get a little busy.

But a lot of things have been happening over the last month: sexual predators facing the music, President Trump’s administration circling the drain, Congressional Republicans stealing trillions of dollars from the future, the potential loss of Internet freedom, and so much more. Here’s a quick recap of what I’ve missed.

First and foremost is the continued outing of powerful sexual predators, assaulters, and harassers. While we can all applaud the takedown of powerful sleaze bags, in my own life, I’ve seen the #metoo movement help individuals come out against their not-so-famous assaulters. Several months ago, a person I know had fallen victim to a sexual predator, but with all of the shame around the issue, they had not gone to the police about it. Following  the publicity around these other cases though, and the way the predators have actually seen some consequences from their actions, the person I know gained the confidence to press charges against her perpetrator. What we’ve seen on the news is just a drop in the bucket, but if the (apparently) changing perceptions of assault victims continues towards belief rather than doubt, the world might actually improve a little bit.

Next, of course, is the way Comrade Trump’s administration continues to flounder in light of the Russia investigation. Without a doubt, the best explainer of all this stuff has been the Twitter feed of a professor of law and journalism at the University of New Hampshire, Seth Abramson.

If you’re not following Abramson on Twitter, get on it. The guy deserves a Pulitzer for the work he’s been doing.

Then, of course, there’s the incredible distribution of wealth from the 99% to the 1%, also known as H.R. 1: Tax Cuts & Jobs Act, which according to the non-partisan Congressional Budget Office will increase the deficit by $1.437 trillion over the next 10 years. The Senate snuck this thing through in the most ridiculous and cynical manner possible, and every relatively moderate Republican ought to be ashamed of themselves (the other Republicans are long past the ability to actually feel shame).

Along with reporting on that increase in the deficit, the CBO reports that “it is not practicable for a macroeconomic analysis to incorporate the full effects of all of the provisions in the bill…within the very short time available between completion of the bill and the filing of the committee report.” In other words, this bill is not only messed up from a content perspective, but from a process perspective too. By now, you’ve heard that this 400+ page bill was passed before anyone had the time to read it, and that the bill itself still contained handwritten amendments since they wouldn’t take the time to print out the changes.

Next, there’s the announcement from the chairman of the FCC that they’d like to repeal the rules that protect net neutrality. This is an incredibly colossal mistake, putting the freedom of the Internet into the corrupt and greedy hands of Comcast, Verizon, and others.

One member of the FCC, who posted in Op-Ed in the LA Times under the headline, “I’m on the FCC. Please stop us from killing net neutrality,” writes, “There is something not right about a few unelected FCC officials making such vast determinations about the future of the internet…Before my fellow FCC members vote to dismantle net neutrality, they need to get out from behind their desks and computers and speak to the public directly…When they do this, they will likely find that, outside of a cadre of high-paid lobbyists and lawyers in Washington, there isn’t a constituency that likes this proposal.”

Nobody but the telecoms want this bill. No real human being has complained about having an open internet that allows low-income individuals to access the same websites as high-income individuals, and mom-and-pop and startup organizations to access the same audience as multinational corporations such as Microsoft and Google.

No one wants this policy change. But because the FCC is run by a former Verizon employee, the policy change is going forward. And that sucks.

So…that should bring us up today. Hopefully, my next post won’t be another month from now.

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life politics

I Have A Daughter

One of my Facebook friends recently posted an image that read: “What if I don’t have daughters and therefore no way of knowing that women are people? Good news, all women are people all the time, not just when assholes have daughters.”

On HuffPost, one writer criticized “a couple of celebrity men [who] put out statements or gave interviews about [Harvey Weinstein’s repeated assaults on women]…emphasizing that as fathers of daughters, they found this behavior abhorrent.”

My Facebook friend and this writer are pissed off because “men see each other as humans. And a lot of men still don’t view girls or women that way.” The “I have a daughter” trope confirms this reality because it stands as “the flip side [to] sexual assault. In both situations, a woman is an object — to grope or protect from groping.”

I get their anger. But I don’t think they’re giving the “transformative” power of having daughters enough credit (even though the HuffPo writer links to that article in her post). I don’t know if they’re fully grasping what that transformation consists of.

The goal of every feminist is to reduce the level of ignorance, to bring those who are not yet capable of it to the realization that women are people too. I’m not sure we have the right to judge the ways in which an individual is brought out of that ignorance. To do so is to put the method ahead of the result.

The HuffPo writer makes an assumption that the men who make these comments do so to protect their daughters from being groped, and in some ways, I know that they do, but couldn’t they also be making these statements because they’ve grown as human beings? Not because they want to protect their daughters, but because they want to defend the rights of everyone to live their lives free from harassment and oppression?

It is a process to bring someone out of their ignorance, and it takes generations to do it on such a massive scale, but with each parent, teacher, and celebrity brought out of their ignorance, humanity gains one more person capable of providing those who are most easily influenced with earlier and earlier opportunities to be brought out of the systemic ignorance.

I appreciate the desire to critique the “I have a daughter” trope, but it seems as if it’s being done with too much judgement, almost as if we’re screaming at someone for not getting it earlier, when maybe we ought to appreciate that, given the society they continue to live in, they ever got it at all.

People only know what other people can teach them. Let’s not forget that children are often our greatest teachers.

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education

There’s More To Sex Ed Than Just Sex

How do you teach 14, 15, and 16-year-old boys not to objectify women?

I suspect the answer lies in empathy. You have to get them to understand what it feels like to become an object. That’s the only thing that would work. They’d have to step outside of their own lust and imagine being the unwilling object of that lust.

But you couldn’t approach something like that head on; they’d  laugh you out of the room. You couldn’t approach it from a perspective of media criticism either, because the concept would be too abstract for them to grasp it. You’d have to come at it on the sly, sneak it in under the cover of something else.

The something else couldn’t be academic, not for the kids I’m talking about, the ones whose ignorant state of objectifying women could eventually lead to the criminal stage of assaulting them.

An easy answer is literature and film, since the best lessons are often communicated in the language of story — but again, not for the kids I’m talking about, the ones who don’t read and who can’t sit still long enough to watch a whole movie.

So what is the hard answer? How do you teach 14, 15, and 16 year old boys not to objectify women?

Is it the kind of job that requires a woman to lead it, or maybe two women in tandem, or maybe a combination of the sexes, one to speak from the experience of the object and the other from the experience of the objectifier?

And if, for want of the students’ maturity, you can’t approach it head on, then how best to approach it?

Or maybe, in this instance, you just have to push past the maturity question and treat the subject as honestly as you’d treat math. Not by hiding it in something else, but by saying, straight up, “We’re going to talk about objectifying women,” and let the conversation go as it may, immaturity and all, until you finally get enough buy in on the seriousness of the topic that even a 14, 15, or 16-year-old boy will know enough to pay attention.

One out of every six women in America will be the victim of a rape or attempted rape in her lifetime. Nearly one in every two women will be the victim of some kind of sexual assault other than rape in her lifetime. Nearly 25% of rape perpetrators are under the age of 20.

This part of a young man’s education matters. And because it affects the way the person treats 50% of the world’s population, maybe it matters more than most other elements of their education.

If we’re to stop the violence on women, we need to do it by curing the systemic causes in our 14, 15, and 16-year-old boys. They are tomorrow’s college students and criminals, and they need to understand the difference between biological lust and the interpersonal violence that comes from sexual objectification.

It’s too important to leave out.